V is for Victory in Christ By Keeping Your Virginity

This title I am sure is SHOCKING !!! But Why is it shocking ? It should be an everyday belief and practice among our young or old women who are not joined in a three fold cord by a covenant with the Lord. Some who know me may say ,"I KNOW YOU AIN'T TELLIN SOMEBODY TO BE A VIRGIN!" Well, I am and I am telling them because they need to hear it. Girls need to be told at a early age and encouraged to hold on to a precious gift. They should be taught just how precious it is.

Yes. I agree that this is the ultimate show of Love and Trust. It is because I believe this that I want to encourage our young girls to keep this prize possession even when you think or know for sure that Mr. Right has come along. Now if you went out and found him you have already got the WRONG MAN ! The Word of God says, ' Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.'-Proverbs 18:22. In other words, 'When a man findeth a wife he findeth a good thing.' The 'light-bulb' word her is FINDETH. The man finds the woman she does not go out and find him. So while he is looking and searching, the young woman or the young girl should be preparing her self for the day he comes to her.

She should be preparing by being a virtuous woman or young lady. She prepares by educating herself so she can handle matters of concern in her household with her husband. She needs to know how to partner with him in decisions about finances and children and other family members. She prepares by keeping her self looking 'Kept by the Lord'. God should be her MAIN concern so if she is busy being about his business he will keep her. She will walk out of her home on her way to school or work looking like he is taking care of her. She should walk out like she knows she is loved. She sets her standards so that only a man that is seeking God first can find her because God will reward him with her.

She must come out dressed as though she knows that HOLINESS is the real beauty. A quite and humble spirit is the real 'attraction' for a young man. She obtains and maintains this by spending time with the Lord. She must be read the Word, explained the Word and taught the Word. When she is being trained up in this manner she learns the true value of herself. She learns that her body is the temple of the Lord and should be kept clean. She learns that if she gives herself to anyone other than her HUSBAND she has violated God's temple. It becomes defiled and when something is spiritually defiled it becomes dirty and unclean in the sight of the Lord. The Bible is her guide to what a woman or young girl of Christ should stand for and what she should represent in her words, deeds and actions. When she learns that her Virginity is a precious jewel only for the man worthy of it,by taking her hand in matrimony and becoming one with her she will not settle for less.

She will know that she should have a spirit of Expectancy when it comes to men and how they are to treat her. She should expect that they will treat her with the same reverence as God did and does the Church. The man that comes into her life must also want to present her without a 'spot' ,or wrinkle, or any such thing but that she be holy and without blemish. The Word tells us in Ephesians 5:27 ' That he might present it to himself a glorious church , not having a spot, or wrinkle , or any such thing but that it should be holy and without blemish.' A young girl should be trained up to know she has the RIGHT to be saved for the honor of marriage. She should know that if a young man wants her to violate herself by giving herself before her covenant of marriage that he does not really love her. If he loved her he would be concerned about her Soul because he should want a whole woman and that includes Mind, Body and Soul.

If he would not dump dirt upon his own body and soil himself why should she allow him to do the same thing spiritually to her ? Instead of us teaching our young girls how to try and get around the consequences of sex outside of marriage, such as broken hearts, disrespectful actions, disrespectful words, gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia, HPV and AIDS, we need to be teaching them about the honor of waiting until he has placed the ring on her finger. A fiancee is not a guarantee of a covenant , That statu is just a possiblity, a 'promissory note' that sometimes can not be fulfilled. He is not her husband at that time and has not made an agreement between himself , her and God to honor her , respect her and love her. She must wait until they have sealed the covenant with God's stamp of approval which is the standing before God and making a Vow to him.

This vow should be kept or not made at all. When a young man gives her his last name by marriage , that is going to live for generations to come , then she can become one with him physically. She can give to him what no other man on this earth has ever possessed. She must know how special the gift is that she can give to the man that takes her hand in marriage.It may seem impossible for a young girl to wait but plant this Word within her, Nurture it and watch it grow and you just may save her soul and her virtue. Even if she falls, you have raised her up with the Word and if it is within her the Spirit of conviction will be so strong she will not be comfortable with what she has done. She will have to go before the Lord with a heart full of sorrow and regret.

Because she has been taught the Word she will REPENT. She will stand back up and dust herself up and restore herself because God has the power to restore. He can not only restore but he can clean her up and make her WHOLE again. She would not be comfortable having sex outside of the will of the Lord. She has been taught the importance and honor of saving herself . She has been brought up to carry herself as someone very special and rare. The Word of God says to be in the World but not of it ! The World only discusses birth control methods and safe sex. Well that is for people who do not realize the spiritual consequences of fornicating. Their only concern is not to have to pay the physical price for being out of his Will but there is a higher price and it is spiritual !

Once we have done our jobs as Women of God with the young lady or ladies placed in our path we can only pray a covering over them and send them forth. They will have to take what we have given them and apply to every aspect of their lives. They must make their own decisions about their bodies. I truly believe that what has been planted in them will be cemented there no matter what and they will come out as pure gold because they were taught the right way. I know a woman can go down the aisle as a virgin . There is NOTHING too hard for God ! I am not talking about this mess the world calls 'born again virgin' ! That is a bunch of MESS ! The enemy is behind that mentality. A virgin has never been sexually involved with a man. Her body does not know a man intimately in that manner. She is intact. Once that has been taken it can not be given back. She can not be a virgin again.

She has allowed a man to know her body and to put within her all of the things another man has deposited in the last female he was with sexually. She can not wash that out, can not cover it up, it is there always. She can not say she has never had a man. God does forgive and he makes us all brand new if we want to be forgiven but even he will not give back the precious gift of her virginity once she have given that away. She can however get back up and go forward determined to make herself the best future wife she can be by not allowing herself to be put in that situation again . She will occupy until he comes by making herself the very best woman she can be within the Will of God.

Who am I to say this ? I am the Woman who was once a single, unmarried female, a sixteen year girl once in love, who trusted and believed and yes was CONVICTED. I am the Woman who loves our young girls enough to tell them something NEW. Tell them something of true value, that can truly prosper them and give them favour in the eye sight of God. They will never regret the decision to keep themselves until they enter into the bedchamber with the Man they have joined spiritually and emotionally. A man that she can worship God with. She can call on God with him to fight the enemy in their home and in their marriage because the enemy is going to come for the marriage ! He loves to see us break our covenant with God. She will stand with this man and identify the enemy and will crush him when he attacks !

They are one in all aspects once they marry and they will reverence, honor and love each other and each others bodies. She will learn her body is his and his body is hers according to the Word.-Be Blessed.

HONESTY FOR A WOMAN OF GOD

I have been allowed to come in contact with young girls lately. Pre-teen and teen agers, also young ladies in their early twenties. It has been pressed upon my heart and within my soul the importance of cultivating our young ladies NOW ! We must talk with them about the 'LIVING WATER' that is free to them even at a young age. They must know about this water that you can not buy with money !( Isaiah 55:1-3). As we cultivate them we as older women must not forget that it is by the MERCY and GRACE of the Lord that we have come this forth though we are still FAR from perfect. Some of us did not have a Woman in our lives that was a good example of a Woman of God. We may not have been given examples or advice according to the Word when we were young .

Instead we were brought up with an example of 'just going to church' was good enough. Shouting, dancing and singing in church was what you were suppose to do and it was ok to if you walked out and started cussin, smoking or raising all kinds of HELL when you left out . Mon-Fri. you could do and say what ever you wanted but on Sunday morning when you got in the church you had to show yourself saved and sanctified ! We just had to make sure we did not get pregnant! How about that Mom who said"You can go out to the club on Saturday night but YOU goin to church in the morning !" Many of us did things as teenagers that would have made our mother's hearts almost bust open and the other women in the church we told us to be 'good girls' !

While we are now older and growing in Christ, we need to keep it REAL with our young ladies. We need to try to catch them early before the high school years so they will be able to handle the high school years and college years. We must give them what we did not get HONESTY about how we fell down but got back up ! Honesty about the importance of 'keeping' themselves until marriage and the honesty of SIN ! It may sound old fashioned but you need to call it what it is. If it is not the WILL of GOD it is SIN ! We must be honest and let them know that they are accountable for their own souls and satan will take it if you GIVE it to him !

We must train them up so that they will have a spirit of CONVICTION ! They must know how to call upon the Word of God when faced with situations that will put them out of the his Will. It is not about NOT GETTING PREGNANT..when it comes to sex..it is about teaching abstinence to them. It is not about looking as cute as possible in their clothes. It is about teaching them at an early age that HOLINESS is really what is beautiful ! They must know they are valuable and if a man can not live up to their requirements they can not be with them ! THEY MUST know the demand respect and be given it when it comes to decisions about their minds, bodies and soul ! If we train them up we have done what is required. Then we must allow them to step out on their own. I believe we can make a difference in their actions even when away from us.

We must let them know that some us did not have an example like that . We must let them know some of went through a rough time as teen agers too and we can relate when they act out as though they have to EXHALE ! We must let them know we had heart breaks while dating young men, we must let them know we did not handle every situation the way we should have. We must listen to them and advise them according to the WORD OF GOD ! I can not emphasize this enough. I can only speak for my self, God has truly watched over me through my development into the Woman i am now. When i left for college i left with JOY in my heart. I had felt burden down for so long i was just glad to be free !

I had given myself and battled with conviction about it while in high school. I believed that it was about waiting for some time and then when you met that guy that really proved himself to love you that it was ok to give to him a very special gift, but on the other hand each time i was convicted and dealt with a see-saw. When I went off to college I felt I was responsible enough and mature enough to take care of myself and still carry myself as a young lady. I met a young man my first year there that I really drew to because i enjoyed his conversation, his laughter, his sense of humor and I thought he was so HANDSOME ! I wanted to just be with him and I thought that if he knew this since he liked me too we would be together.

Believing this I gave myself to him because It was just going to be him. I could have gone my whole four years with him. But reality is whether we would have been together through our college years or not I was out of the Will of God to give myself to him in a manner that only a Wife should give herself to the Man who deems her worthy of carrying his last name. My Sophomore year I made the decision that we were going to come forth as a couple or I was going to leave what I thought was a 'relationship'.His actions to me, would prove me right or wrong. I put the ultimatum on the table and he decided 'it was not broken so why fix it'. He wanted me to settle for just knowing we were a couple but for me It had to be shown to the entire campus. Love was and still is an action. I cared a great deal for him but I cared more for myself so as much as I missed him and It hurt me to walk away, walk away is what I did. I had given him something very precious to me..MYSELF and that was a thing of value and it deserved the utmost..not an assumption unspoken.

Later on, I gave my heart again and made another choice based on RESPECT for myself as what I thought that meant and entailed. I went thru devastating heart break and I re-acted in a manner to fool people into thinking I was handling it just fine and did not care. I presented the facade that It had no effect on me in a negative way but it really did ! I put on an act in my other relationships with 'boys' because they were not MEN ! I still had not healed from my decision to end a relationship with someone I gave my heart fully too and I did not trust any male because of my involvement with other males from that point. I developed a 'get them before they get you' mentality and it phased me NONE to pretend to be faithful ! I did what I wanted , when I wanted, with who I wanted ! I was HARD on the outside but crushed on the inside. I presented myself as less than a lady by the way I talked sometimes, The way I treated other men, The way I looked at relationships and my outlook on LOVE !

I could cuss as good as any MAN and It did not phase me any ! HURT can cause you to turn to stone if you do not know how else to deal with it. Who was there in my life to tell me the proper way to deal with it ? Who could I turn to for guidance and release ? No one I felt. I was hard and I was rough and I was proud of that reputation ! I did not TRUST and I was not going to give my heart again ! Then one day, I began to feel tired. I just seemed to run out of GAS one day. I was tired of wasting my time with 'boys'. I was tired of not being able to open myself up and be vulnerable again. It was too risky before !

At this point, I must have caused just a big enough opening for GOD to get in my heart and place a desire within me! I laid my tired and weary body down at his altar ! I laid my broken heart down at his altar. I laid down the tears that had fallen because of lies, immaturity and foolishness of BOYS ! I went down on my knees one night and I called out to him. I asked him specifically for something and I got up believing that he had heard me. I left it there and went on with my life. I started making small changes. I still fell down in areas but I also became stronger in other areas. They were small changes but they were a start. A year had gone by before the Lord manifested my request. It came without me being warned and without any 'bells and whistles' going off.

Along came Jason. He was a complete opposite of me. He was the calm to my storm. He was the trust to my deceit. He was the soother to my wrath ! Most of all he came into my heart before I even knew it and when he came I denied it at first !I did not want to accept it even though I knew what I had asked God for ! I was scared because I was trying to rationalize this by the standards of the World and the World said this could not be REAL and It did not happen this way ! To try and keep my self balanced I was still not being the whole person I should have been with him. One night though, he kissed me and it was so soft, so sincere, and I accepted it. I opened up some at this point. A few months later I took a big chance and did something I believed was really unsafe, I told him I loved him ! THERE !!! I had said those words that always brought heartache ! He confessed his love for me also and the way he held me made me feel he was real ! YES I WAS STILL SCARED !

He read the Bible in a Year with me. This was definitely nothing I had ever experienced in other relationships or whatever you want to call them . He was patient with me as I begin to back out of the world. He waited for me to make changes in my life because LOVE will make you want to change for the person you love. LOVE IS AN ACTION and sometimes it requires sacrifice. It requires a release of the toxins from your past! He was used by God to put me back on my road of deliverance and salvation. I was on my WAY to HELL but for the MERCY AND GRACE of the Lord ! I want to be able to share these stories and others with young girls and young ladies to head them off before they go this direction ! Things seem to be even worse for young people now. The imagination of EVIL is rising up in their minds it seems even higher than our generation of young people. If I can help one I would have done a good deed. She in return will help another young lady and it will grow and It will spread.

If I had not gone thru some of these things though I would not have known that GOD can be a protector even in the midst of your MESS, He can protect you even w hen death is trying to come and take you, He can be a refuge in the time of need and he can keep you safe from hurt , harm and danger that may cost you your soul in the midst of your mess ! I am not perfect now and was not perfect then but I AM GROWING AND STRIVING NOW ! I pray I can make a positive difference in the spiritual relationship of a young lady with her GOD. If I can open her eyes to see that GOD is the ultimate . No man can treat you as good but If you wait on him he will allow the BEST for you to find you !

We must teach our young ladies to let the MAN find you. Do not go out looking for him and do not settle for just any male presence in your life. Set your standards for yourself and the man you date according to the WORD OF GOD. A man should be so close to GOD he has to go through him to find a woman, A mate , a Wife ! I am Jason's blessing and his portion in this life and I believe he is MINE ! He was the one God gave the Wisdom to polish me off and see the real me inside !

Our young ladies must value themselves and we must allow them to confide in us. Most importantly, we must teach them to communicate any and all things to CHRIST JESUS through prayer. GOD BLESS AND PROTECT OUR YOUNG LADIES..SHOW THEM THE SAME GRACE AND MERCY YOU SHOWED ME !

TRAINING UP THE YOUNGER WOMAN

On January 10Th I had the honor of hosting a 'Prayer Shower' for my God Daughter, Monique Baker, and her family. For those of you who have no idea what this is, it is a creative celebration given to me by God out of a 'storm'. That storm was the first pregnancy of my God daughter while she was still in high school. Her mother understandably was not happy about this and hated to know her daughter was going to have to have her life altered in such a big way at such an early age. Being a Woman of God, she did not want the consequences of disobedience to be celebrated as though there was not a violation of God's Word done by her action.

She did not want a typical baby shower because of the status of Monique during the conception of this child. I had to think of how we could hold something for her that would allow her to get items she would need for this baby but still allow her to understand that she needed to recognize and acknowledge the reality of her actions in the spiritual aspect of things. This was not cute and it was not 'sweet'. It was an act of SIN that caused a consequence that would change her life. She needed though to get it right with the Lord and then go forth seriously preparing for the change in her life and in the life of her family members. How did i as a God Mother do what I was responsible for doing at that time in her life ? As her God Mother I was also responsible for her spiritual growth.

As i sat thinking about this, God did what he always does with my gift of creativity he placed it in my mind with a certainty he gave it to me ! A PRAYER SHOWER ! I would host a gathering of praying women along with her girlfriends and we would pray over her. We would rain a prayer covering over her, her unborn baby girl, her brother and sisters and her Mother. The idea was birth forth from this 'storm'. Her mother was at peace with it and we went forth. It was such a blessing and it allowed her to think about her actions. It allowed her to know though she fell , she had to get back up because GOD still loved her despite her act. She had to know she just had to repent and go forth in the Mercy and Grace of the Lord and he would take care of it from that point. She needed to know we still loved her and would be there for her . She needed older women in her life to be examples of how to conquer a storm when it comes into your life. She needed to know that there were women she could go to if she needed to just talk and release without it being judgement attached.

When she gave birth to Ariel I was at the hospital along with her Mother. That baby girl came out and looked directly at her 'Lady' ( as she likes to be called) as though she immediately recognized her. She knew her smell, her presence and her voice. Monique turned and looked at her baby and I think she was amazed and exhausted. I was excited and so very happy she had finally come forth. I was also feeling a sense of protection and a heart full of desire for a life full of blessings for her and my God daughter despite this transition in her life. Monique's mother and I both hoped she would learn from this and go forth and try to get on track to prepare for her future without this consequence of disobedience taking place again before she was one day joined in Matrimony. Well, that was not going to be the case.

Last year, My God Daughter had to gather up the strength in her loins and call me to inform me she was expecting again. It had been some years now since the birth of her beautiful baby girl and now she had 'fallen' again in the area of 'keeping' herself until marriage and she had not been safe and careful .....that is what the world would say , but we are looking at this from a spiritual stand point. She is my God Daughter and I love her despite the bumps on her head she has gotten from her desire to 'buy ' life's lessons instead of listening and heeding to the Words of Wisdom from the lips of her mother and me. I let her get these difficult words out of her mouth and I let her know I was going to be there for her anyway. She did not need to get things straight with me, she needed to get them straight with the Lord and then go forth preparing for YET another transition in her life.

As she prepared for this new child, she no longer had her job mid way thru the pregnancy,she was not living at her mother's home, she had no money and needed maternity clothing. Most of all she was in need of items for this new baby. HOW was she going to get them ? She needed to have a baby shower YET she had no money to pay for a baby shower and she had no location to hold it. She was in NEED. A virtuous woman, takes care of her household and all that is under her hand. Monique, was under my hand,so it was my responsibility to be a HELP to her. I opened my home for another PRAYER SHOWER for her.She was allowed to invite her friends. She passed out the invitations for a PRAYER SHOWER. Well, you can just imagine the funny looks and the inquiries they gave her. No one had heard of such a thing YET it was what was so much needed in her life.

As expected she did not have many young ladies to come but there were 4 who came and stayed . The mighty Women of God that I had called on came and allowed the Lord to use them in a MIGHTY WAY up in the place. Oh how God moved in this house ! His anointing was present and it was truly felt. The power of PRAYER went forth in this place and it did what his Word always does. It moved GOD. He touched hearts, he brought about conviction, he brought about concern for the soul within all the young ladies present. He used us, the older women, and we showered prayers upon Monique, her Mother, her sisters and her young friends. My Friend, Edith, a mighty sold out woman of God allowed God to use her and she brought forth the MOST IMPORTANT call of the night.

She asked who was saved in the room. She opened up the invitation for the young ladies to come to the LORD ! OH GLORY TO GOD ! This after such a powerful move of the Lord among the young and older women in the room was the ultimate! God had already touched Monique's heart and she publicly asked for Forgiveness from her older sister whom she loved but always seemed to bump heads with. THAT was GOD GLORIFIED right there ! It brought me to tears and it caused me great JOY because my baby girl was growing spiritually and she was not waiting on anyone as she was walking forth in her destiny despite the scars she carried along the way. I knew on that night she was going ! A young lady raised her hand when asked if she wanted to be saved ! I can not explain how this overwhelmed me and humbled me ! Edith brought forth the Word of the Lord according to Romans 10:9 to everyone in the room and ask them to repeat it if they wanted salvation.

After seeing the young ladies pouring out tears of hurt during the prayer shower, we bowed our heads to pray and extended the invitation of salvation. Those young ladies received it and repeated it !!! One little girl was also there that was the daughter of one of my dear friends and sisters in Christ, she is only 12 but on that night even she got saved !!! There is nothing more humbling than knowing you brought someone to the door and they chose to open it and step thru covered under the blood of JESUS for salvation ! The older women must be an example to the younger woman. We must show them, we must be honest with them and we must teach them according to the WORD and not the WORLD. We must extend the invitation according to the Word of God that they may know their young souls are at stake !

We must rear them not the enemy ! We must be that ear when they want to talk openly and ask questions. We must go with them in prayer and show them how EASY it really is to develop a relationship with the Father. We must be the role model even if we fall down, we must show them how God's Grace and Mercy still works in our lives. We must show them how to get back up and get back in line. We must be real about a relationship with God as Women of God. Those young ladies being saved in my home, the prayers that went forth and covered my god daughter, her family and the unborn fruit in her womb were heard by the Lord and i know in FAITH that he received them and will do what has been requested by his Women of God.

It meant so much for those young girls to come forth..but now we must cultivate this thing. We must teach them that it is a slow process like being 'born again'. They are babies in Christ truly and must take their time to grow stronger day by day not second by second. We must GLORIFY God in our development of these young ladies. Deliverance does not come immediately and they have to know that ! They have to want it. They have to want to be released from YOKES and BONDAGE of things so easily besetting them in this WORLD ! Our young girls are the next generation to PRAISE THE LORD but we must TRAIN THEM UP !-GOD BLESS.

LIL ZION WILL BE HERE SOON. HE IS STILL SWIMMING IN THE MIDST OF THE PRAYERS RAINED DOWN UPON HIM IN THE WOMB !