We can all remember the day we walked down the aisle to our future mates or when we waited for our future mate to come down the aisle to us. We waited in anticipation of knowing that in just a few minutes we would be joined to this person. They would be ours and we would be theirs. We felt that we had found the right one, the honest one, the reliable one and the one we always wanted to be with for the rest of our lives. We had found the person who allowed us to let down our guard. To remove the facade that past heartaches and disappointments in love had brought us.
In this person we put our TRUST.We laid it all out on the line for that person. We dreamed of our lives with that person. We believed it would be alright and that we would LOVE that person in the future the same way we LOVED them on our wedding day and up until that special, magical and unforgettable moment. It was a moment worth crying about because it was so open and so unashamed and so willing to be full of what ever sacrifice was necessary to make our love for each other work !
THIS is the picture we must save in our heads..and this is the place we must go to in our hearts when the person we TRUSTED so openly comes to us and tells us that they have violated their promise to GOD first and then to US to forsake all others ! What do we do as the person who has been blown away with disbelief by the words coming forth from this same person we entwined ourselves with many years ago ? What do we do if we just happen to find out accidentally ? How do you keep the enemy from gaining more of a foothold than he already has ?
Some of us who have been the violator or have been violated may say that any hurt or pain that was dished out was deserving to the person who caused so much pain..BUT as hard as it is and as MUCH as it hurts you must be in a place spiritually to go thru this and identify the enemy. Those of us that have spiritual conviction about our violation can not sleep , can not have true rest and peace unless we go before the Lord and put it at the altar..that is for both person who have been pulled into this whirlpool of hurt. Those of us who caused the hurt and those of us who received the blow. When there is a foundation within us...even if we do give in to the flesh we can not be comfortable with it and we must eventually out of fear and love go to the LORD and REPENT sincerely of having violated his trust and the trust of our mate.
As the person who commits the violation if we have the Holy Spirit within us we are shamed and we are sorrowful and we are humbled before the Lord because we know we have placed our souls in danger of HELL. There is no other truth but that we have put our souls in danger of HELL and if you tell your mate about your violation you take a chance of losing your ROCK. Because whether you want to admit it or not you are one with that person and you can not picture your life really without them in it. Sometimes you can not explain why you allowed the enemy to speak to you and whisper things in your ear, to work your flesh and give in to submission of the flesh and do what the flesh wants you to do..the end result of the flesh is death..not just physical death..but death of your mate's love and trust. TRUST is a valuable gift that once cracked will never really mend the same again..in my opinion. It is a good thing GOD is not man !
When GOD forgives your sins no matter what they are they are FORGIVEN ! They are as far away as the East and West never to be mentioned again..when you are sincere in your repentance ! MAN will not forget the violation of their trust in you and the disrespect and inconsideration of their LOVE ! BUT GOD...despite how much we hurt him with our sinful ways he will always take us back with loving arms as though we have done nothing..if we are sincere ! YES even in the violation of our vows to our mate ! How do you as the violator get back that trust and the love you had in the marriage before you strayed out under the influence and blinders of the enemy ? I say to PRAY..PRAY WITHOUT CEASING ! If you have chosen to tell your mate about your violation if you are sincerely sorry you will ask HIM OR HER TO FORGIVE YOU ..To say you are 'sorry' is just not enough. This is a spiritual hurt..this would of offense cuts deep especially when they find out and if it has been with someone they are acquainted with it CUTS EVEN DEEPER ! You must ask for forgiveness..and as much as it hurts them they must give it ! No one wants to be made a fool of for years and years or months..no one wants to know the one person they trusted should not have been trusted completely.
How do you get back to what you had ? GOD is the only one that can heal the heart of the violated and the violator . He gives you the gift of TIME to heal and restore along with the most important his WORD. You must stay in it and learn how to deal with it GOD'S way if you two really do love each other and really want to be married to each other..despite the customized tricks that satan placed in your way to make you violate your promise ! If you choose to only take it to GOD then i say that is your right too because sometimes MEN do not forget or forgive they take that anger and hurt with them always and never let you forget ! It can finish destroying a marriage that an affair has already severly damaged. Even as the person who violated you can only take so much 'punishment' from the person you hurt until you come to a point that you feel that you have PAID the price enough for something you that you did that was terrible !
Having a relationship with GOD does not mean we will not fall sometimes or mess up but having a relationship with him means we WILL BE CONVICTED AND WE CAN NOT BE COMFORTABLE IN CHOICES THAT ARE AGAINST HIS WILL ! FOR THIS WE SHOULD BE GRATEFUL ! He can restore....he can give back..he can bring upon the situation a spirit of forgiveness and desire to go thru together EVEN THIS storm block together ! When you know the enemy has done this thing and cause your mate to fall you get MAD AT THE ENEMY and you decide to call on JESUS to fight this battle because it is a spirit ..the spirit of ADULTERY ! ONLY GOD CAN FIGHT IT AND BIND IT AND DESTROY IT BEFORE IT PERMEATES YOUR MARRIAGE AND DESTROYS IT FOR GOOD !
To the person whose heart has been crushed and trust been destroyed i say..Go into your prayer closet and CRY AND PRAY..PRAY AND CRY..CRY AND PRAY..AND PRAY AND CRY SOME MORE..CAST ALL YOUR CARES AND YOUR HEARTBREAKS ON HIM FOR HE CARES FOR YOU...PRAY FOR YOUR MATE WHO VIOLATED YOUR MARRIAGE AND YOUR MARRIAGE BED..PRAY FOR THE PERSON HE/SHE WAS IN THE AFFAIR WITH BECAUSE THAT PERSON HAS PUT THEIR SOUL IN DANGER ALSO. THE ENEMY HAS BLINDED EVEN THEM BECAUSE THEY ARE COMFORTABLE WITH DOING IT..BECAUSE THEY WOULD BE FINE WITH THE THOUGHT OF YOUR MARRIAGE BEING OVER BECAUSE OF THEIR AFFAIR WITH YOUR MATE ! THAT IS NOT OF GOD ITSELF..PRAY FOR THEIR DELIVERANCE !
Pray for yourself because you are going to go thru so many emotions and thoughts..you are going to try and figure out what is wrong with you..what did you do or what did you not do...what is that person doing that has gotten your mate so off track of your future plans as husband and wife ? None of those plans included a third party ! Pray for your mind because all kinds of hurtful thoughts will go through your head..from when..to where..to how..and if you have a name and face to put on the other man or woman you really have to plead the BLOOD OF JESUS OVER YOUR THOUGHTS.. ! Ask the Lord to keep you from reacting out of anger..because it can also lead to sin and no sin is greater than the other !
The enemy can not get anymore in this situation ! Do not give him the VICTORY in this situation if you have a mate who is sincerely repentive for what he/she has done and he/she has taken it to GOD and found the strenght to bring it to you and take the chance of losing you and all that God has given him under the roof of his household , THEN FORGIVE THEM ! Go forth with them..take it slow stay in prayer and take it one day at a time. Keep praying that your mate keep themselves from that point forward for only you..if you choose to forgive and stay in the marriage then go forth and heal together..CALL ALL THE LORD TOGETHER TO FIGHT THE ENEMY FOR YOU WHEN THAT SPIRIT OF ADULTERY TRIES TO REAR IT'S UGLY HEAD!
If you feel that you can not be in the marriage anymore then you are free to go GOD has given his approval in this matter for this situation. He has spoken that it is ok to divorce because the committment has been violated..if this is where it goes then you forgive ..wish them deliverance and restoration ..and go forth with your life as a single person in this world. You can not hold onto unforgiveness for the sake of your own soul ! Sometimes when we think about those wedding vows we honestly must say that we stood there never really expecting to go thru the WORST when it comes to our mate but sometimes the WORST will come and what will we do then ?
GOD LIFT UP A STANDARD AROUND ALL MARRIAGES..AND DELIVERS MATES WHO HAVE AN ADULTEROUS SPIRIT ! CONVICT THEM LORD. GIVE THEM NO PEACE IN THEIR ACTIONS. CONVICT THEM SO THEY WILL FALL DOWN BEFORE YOU AND REPENT ! OPEN THEIR EYES TO ALL THAT YOU HAVE GIVEN THEM IN THE MATE OF THEIR YOUTH AND ALL THAT YOU HAVE PUT UNDER THEIR HANDS..MAKE THEM TO SEE THE BLESSING AND TO SEE THE 'DECEIT AND TRICKERY' OF THE ENEMY ! HEAR THEIR PRAYERS..FORGIVE THEM AND RESTORE THEM ! AMEN
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