THE COVENANT OF HUSBAND AND WIFE

Marriage is more than a notion. It is more than being the entire center of attention for one day and having a great big party with your family and friends. It takes more than looking good in your tuxedo and gown to make it last...to do it the way God's Word has commanded us to do it to the END till DEATH do us part. Juanita Bynum said on her CD a few years ago, that 'Marriage is for grown folks'. Having been binded to my husband for 14 years i know that that is not just concerning the age of two people, it means emotionally, mentally and SPIRITUALLY ! You really do need to have a relationship with the Lord that grows and grows and grows each year , each day, each month you are married because the enemy will come and he will devise temptations and lies and deceptions to try to make you step out of your covenant agreement with GOD.

You do not just become husband and wife, you enter into an agreement with the Lord to stay with each other thru rich, poor, sickness and health. The words not spoken but that should be obvious since dedicating to spend all of your days on earth together as husband and wife should be in each person's understanding is thru disagreements, financial hardships, bad decisions about the household, words spoken out of anger, ignorance of the best way to handle a situation, lack of consideration and YES even sometimes the violation of the marriage bed, Adultery, if a mate can pray his way thru this and allow the Lord to heal them. If the guilty party has a spirit of repentance you as a couple can go thru any of these situations. If there is a true desire to repent from these actions based on flesh in which is no good thing, you can make it.

As a couple you need to be able to identify the tricks of the enemy. You should have a desire to stand against him together side by side...if you step a part he can get in the middle and that is not where he is suppose to be ! We all fall down as creations in flesh. We all come short of the glory of GOD but we have to have enough within us to want to get up. We need to learn the Word of God for ourselves concerning all areas of our lives but right now i am addressing the Covenant of Marriage. Sometimes our mates will speak words that can put things in motion that may take years to heal from...they can speak words that will cause your heart to not feel the Trust, Dedication and Committment of Love you once felt for them . This is because just as the Bible tells us, words are spirit they set things in motion. Those things can be good or they can be bad but our mouth the words we speak set them in motion. They can create a smooth breeze flowing even in a difference in opinions or it can set in motion a tidal wave that will crush the other person verbally mind, body and soul. If we want to be like Jesus we have to talk like Jesus , We have to walk like Jesus and We have to act like Jesus towards our mate even when our flesh says we should just blow off the steam and fix it later . THAT IS THE ENEMY !

Am i 'preaching' to another couple ? No. My husband and i also are flesh and we do not always communicate with each other the way that we should and the enemy has put lies in our heads about each others words, intentions, actions and committment BUT for the Holy Spirit within this earthen vessel we would not be convicted to repent of our ways before the Lord with a sincere heart. We would not be able to go to our mate and not say 'I am sorry', but ask them to FORGIVE US. God's Word never list the words 'I AM SORRY' ! Acknowledge the pain you have put in another person's heart you have committed an offense which creates a spirit of offense you must act for FORGIVENESS from the mate you violated with your mouth , word, deeds or actions. The enemy hates that because God's way is to forgive and when we can humble ourselves as God's Word has commanded and acknowledge his spirit within our temples, We remind the enemy that we know who GOD is and we know that he died for our sins so we may be forgiven of them ALL because he has the power to heal even in relationships.

Does the heart of the one we love you joined to always heal immediately ? NO. It can sometimes take awhile because it has been wounded and all wounds take time to heal but each day as you look at the wound you see progress, you see it in the process of healing and you know that one day it will be complete. As married couples we must have a forgiving heart so we can heal and go forth together do not let the enemy stop you from going forth into the destiny GOD has for you all. ENJOY JESUS together as a dear sweet Chrisitian Mother, Sis. Dennis, once said when describing her relationship with her deceased husband to the congregation. Those words went into my heart, mind and soul and it seemed to be the answer to marriage right there in those few words. ENJOY JESUS TOGETHER ! Together you can go to his altar in prayer, fast, praise him, worship him, STAND and wait on him, BIND AND LOOSE, Watch him move on your behalf and watch him turn your situations around no matter what the physical eye shows.

1 PETER 3 discusses the relationship of the husband and the wife. Every single person, engaged and married should read this scripture. You should read it before accepting a marriage proposal, you should read it while planning a wedding , you should read it to remind yourself of God's way after you are married. You should read it alone and with your spouse or future spouse. Have a good understanding of how it is suppose to be. If any man Lack Wisdom let him ask and God will give it to him ....according to what the Word of God says. 1 Peter advises women to be in subjection to your OWN husbands that if any obey not the word, they also without the word be won by conversation of the wives. We are back to those Words being spirit again. The husband may be what he is suppose to be, may not be where you are spiritually, may be making the decisions of wisdom you think he should be but YOUR WORDS can form the outcome. Do not murder him with your tongue. Speak words of support and love.

Talk with him and to him not about him and at him. Allow him to make decisions and give your opinion in a loving way but if he is de termine then you just subject yourself. Pray. Go into your prayer closet and give it to JESUS ! I am not telling you what sounds good i am telling you my own TESTIMONY in my own MARRIAGE. Put that thing at the altar watch GOD move on your behalf. Whether he changes your husband's mind and decision or allows him to go thru his TEST because of his own decision GOD will bring it to light to your husband if he made a bad decision or acted in a manner that did not reflect the LORD. BUT he must see the right way thru prayer and actions that are of GOD . He must see and hear that thru YOU. Because you say you are his HELPMATE. His good thing . Is it easy ladies ? NO. We have to pray for the Lord just to bridle our tongues..and let's not even discuss our necks rolling, screaming and the thoughts in our heads. LORD HAVE MERCY ! I plead the blood of JESUS over all that MESS ! The Word says, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit , is in the sight of God of great price. Let's work on that ladies !

HUSBANDS i have not forgotten about you....the spiritual head of the household. You are responsible for the spirituality of everyone under your roof in your castle that you share with your QUEEN. The Word commands you to dwell with us according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life that YOUR prayers not be hindered. LOOK AT THAT ...RIGHT BACK TO ENJOYING JESUS TOGETHER BASICALLY...IT SAYS 'YOUR 'PRAYERS. Pray for each other and with each other. Stand together in your castle against everyone who speaks against your belief . Stand against family or friends it does not matter. If someone comes into your home with the spirit of arrogance because of their relationship to one of you, shows disrespect to either one of you concerning the rules in your home and your beliefs you are to stand with your mate against that spirit of rebellion and witchcraft because that is what it is. Do not allow someone else especially, a family to speak against or act against your mate in a manner that shows disrespect. ESPECIALLY in your home. Being a christian couple there are certain things you do and do not allow in your home . Do not slack on those beliefs for family or friends.

ESTABLISH you stand together with Christ ! Many times when it comes to family and friends it is not about what you say it is about what you do. If your mate has been offended or disregarded by a family member or friend it is your duty to speak privately with them and let them know your love and committment to your mate . You must support the request of the Woman of the House. It is her castle anyone else other than her King and her Princess they are as servants. Show respect to her when in her castle. Even if they may not agree they are to show her respect for her p osition in your life and vice-versa for the man. If they can not abide in peace and respect within your castle then bless them with what they need to move out and move on sending the Peace of the Lord with them. Because family and friends can be used also by the enemy to destroy your marriage.

You can be looking at the face of a family member or friend but not see with your spirit that the enemy is addressing you. He is using that person to seperate you because of your love for them . You forget that you have forsaken all others loving no other the way you love your wife, except GOD. You are to love your mate next to GOD. Try the spirit and know if it is of GOD. Am i speaking to any of you married folks out there with sisters, nieces, nephews, Mommas, Dads, Uncles and Aunts that have come into your castle and acted as though your mate was irrelevant ? That have done and said what they want to in your domain because of their relationship with your mate. THEY ARE OUT OF THE WILL OF GOD ! You need to address that spirit right from the moment it reels up it's ugly head !

I am just offering WORDS of LIFE to married couples . I am speaking from my own growth in the Word of the Lord and from my own test and trials in this covenant of marriage. It is not always peace and love because we do not always deal with each other the way the Word says we should but we must learn the word concerning all areas of our lives with each other. GOD BLESS YOU AND LIFT UP A HEDGE ALL AROUND YOUR MARRIAGE-AMEN