THE COVENANT OF HUSBAND AND WIFE

Marriage is more than a notion. It is more than being the entire center of attention for one day and having a great big party with your family and friends. It takes more than looking good in your tuxedo and gown to make it last...to do it the way God's Word has commanded us to do it to the END till DEATH do us part. Juanita Bynum said on her CD a few years ago, that 'Marriage is for grown folks'. Having been binded to my husband for 14 years i know that that is not just concerning the age of two people, it means emotionally, mentally and SPIRITUALLY ! You really do need to have a relationship with the Lord that grows and grows and grows each year , each day, each month you are married because the enemy will come and he will devise temptations and lies and deceptions to try to make you step out of your covenant agreement with GOD.

You do not just become husband and wife, you enter into an agreement with the Lord to stay with each other thru rich, poor, sickness and health. The words not spoken but that should be obvious since dedicating to spend all of your days on earth together as husband and wife should be in each person's understanding is thru disagreements, financial hardships, bad decisions about the household, words spoken out of anger, ignorance of the best way to handle a situation, lack of consideration and YES even sometimes the violation of the marriage bed, Adultery, if a mate can pray his way thru this and allow the Lord to heal them. If the guilty party has a spirit of repentance you as a couple can go thru any of these situations. If there is a true desire to repent from these actions based on flesh in which is no good thing, you can make it.

As a couple you need to be able to identify the tricks of the enemy. You should have a desire to stand against him together side by side...if you step a part he can get in the middle and that is not where he is suppose to be ! We all fall down as creations in flesh. We all come short of the glory of GOD but we have to have enough within us to want to get up. We need to learn the Word of God for ourselves concerning all areas of our lives but right now i am addressing the Covenant of Marriage. Sometimes our mates will speak words that can put things in motion that may take years to heal from...they can speak words that will cause your heart to not feel the Trust, Dedication and Committment of Love you once felt for them . This is because just as the Bible tells us, words are spirit they set things in motion. Those things can be good or they can be bad but our mouth the words we speak set them in motion. They can create a smooth breeze flowing even in a difference in opinions or it can set in motion a tidal wave that will crush the other person verbally mind, body and soul. If we want to be like Jesus we have to talk like Jesus , We have to walk like Jesus and We have to act like Jesus towards our mate even when our flesh says we should just blow off the steam and fix it later . THAT IS THE ENEMY !

Am i 'preaching' to another couple ? No. My husband and i also are flesh and we do not always communicate with each other the way that we should and the enemy has put lies in our heads about each others words, intentions, actions and committment BUT for the Holy Spirit within this earthen vessel we would not be convicted to repent of our ways before the Lord with a sincere heart. We would not be able to go to our mate and not say 'I am sorry', but ask them to FORGIVE US. God's Word never list the words 'I AM SORRY' ! Acknowledge the pain you have put in another person's heart you have committed an offense which creates a spirit of offense you must act for FORGIVENESS from the mate you violated with your mouth , word, deeds or actions. The enemy hates that because God's way is to forgive and when we can humble ourselves as God's Word has commanded and acknowledge his spirit within our temples, We remind the enemy that we know who GOD is and we know that he died for our sins so we may be forgiven of them ALL because he has the power to heal even in relationships.

Does the heart of the one we love you joined to always heal immediately ? NO. It can sometimes take awhile because it has been wounded and all wounds take time to heal but each day as you look at the wound you see progress, you see it in the process of healing and you know that one day it will be complete. As married couples we must have a forgiving heart so we can heal and go forth together do not let the enemy stop you from going forth into the destiny GOD has for you all. ENJOY JESUS together as a dear sweet Chrisitian Mother, Sis. Dennis, once said when describing her relationship with her deceased husband to the congregation. Those words went into my heart, mind and soul and it seemed to be the answer to marriage right there in those few words. ENJOY JESUS TOGETHER ! Together you can go to his altar in prayer, fast, praise him, worship him, STAND and wait on him, BIND AND LOOSE, Watch him move on your behalf and watch him turn your situations around no matter what the physical eye shows.

1 PETER 3 discusses the relationship of the husband and the wife. Every single person, engaged and married should read this scripture. You should read it before accepting a marriage proposal, you should read it while planning a wedding , you should read it to remind yourself of God's way after you are married. You should read it alone and with your spouse or future spouse. Have a good understanding of how it is suppose to be. If any man Lack Wisdom let him ask and God will give it to him ....according to what the Word of God says. 1 Peter advises women to be in subjection to your OWN husbands that if any obey not the word, they also without the word be won by conversation of the wives. We are back to those Words being spirit again. The husband may be what he is suppose to be, may not be where you are spiritually, may be making the decisions of wisdom you think he should be but YOUR WORDS can form the outcome. Do not murder him with your tongue. Speak words of support and love.

Talk with him and to him not about him and at him. Allow him to make decisions and give your opinion in a loving way but if he is de termine then you just subject yourself. Pray. Go into your prayer closet and give it to JESUS ! I am not telling you what sounds good i am telling you my own TESTIMONY in my own MARRIAGE. Put that thing at the altar watch GOD move on your behalf. Whether he changes your husband's mind and decision or allows him to go thru his TEST because of his own decision GOD will bring it to light to your husband if he made a bad decision or acted in a manner that did not reflect the LORD. BUT he must see the right way thru prayer and actions that are of GOD . He must see and hear that thru YOU. Because you say you are his HELPMATE. His good thing . Is it easy ladies ? NO. We have to pray for the Lord just to bridle our tongues..and let's not even discuss our necks rolling, screaming and the thoughts in our heads. LORD HAVE MERCY ! I plead the blood of JESUS over all that MESS ! The Word says, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit , is in the sight of God of great price. Let's work on that ladies !

HUSBANDS i have not forgotten about you....the spiritual head of the household. You are responsible for the spirituality of everyone under your roof in your castle that you share with your QUEEN. The Word commands you to dwell with us according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life that YOUR prayers not be hindered. LOOK AT THAT ...RIGHT BACK TO ENJOYING JESUS TOGETHER BASICALLY...IT SAYS 'YOUR 'PRAYERS. Pray for each other and with each other. Stand together in your castle against everyone who speaks against your belief . Stand against family or friends it does not matter. If someone comes into your home with the spirit of arrogance because of their relationship to one of you, shows disrespect to either one of you concerning the rules in your home and your beliefs you are to stand with your mate against that spirit of rebellion and witchcraft because that is what it is. Do not allow someone else especially, a family to speak against or act against your mate in a manner that shows disrespect. ESPECIALLY in your home. Being a christian couple there are certain things you do and do not allow in your home . Do not slack on those beliefs for family or friends.

ESTABLISH you stand together with Christ ! Many times when it comes to family and friends it is not about what you say it is about what you do. If your mate has been offended or disregarded by a family member or friend it is your duty to speak privately with them and let them know your love and committment to your mate . You must support the request of the Woman of the House. It is her castle anyone else other than her King and her Princess they are as servants. Show respect to her when in her castle. Even if they may not agree they are to show her respect for her p osition in your life and vice-versa for the man. If they can not abide in peace and respect within your castle then bless them with what they need to move out and move on sending the Peace of the Lord with them. Because family and friends can be used also by the enemy to destroy your marriage.

You can be looking at the face of a family member or friend but not see with your spirit that the enemy is addressing you. He is using that person to seperate you because of your love for them . You forget that you have forsaken all others loving no other the way you love your wife, except GOD. You are to love your mate next to GOD. Try the spirit and know if it is of GOD. Am i speaking to any of you married folks out there with sisters, nieces, nephews, Mommas, Dads, Uncles and Aunts that have come into your castle and acted as though your mate was irrelevant ? That have done and said what they want to in your domain because of their relationship with your mate. THEY ARE OUT OF THE WILL OF GOD ! You need to address that spirit right from the moment it reels up it's ugly head !

I am just offering WORDS of LIFE to married couples . I am speaking from my own growth in the Word of the Lord and from my own test and trials in this covenant of marriage. It is not always peace and love because we do not always deal with each other the way the Word says we should but we must learn the word concerning all areas of our lives with each other. GOD BLESS YOU AND LIFT UP A HEDGE ALL AROUND YOUR MARRIAGE-AMEN

WHY AREN'T WE LOVING JESUS ?

On this earth when someone makes a BIG sacrifice for us we do not forget it. The act shows us that they love us and are truly a friend to us. What greater love than a friend lay down his/her life for us ? Would them losing their life for something we did be the ULTIMATE to us ? Would we beg them not to do it because we know we are the guilty party and not them..that we deserve the penalty because it was US and not them that broke the law ? Those of us that have the Holy Spirit within us would be convicted....and if the sentence was carried out upon the innocent for us we would be so humbled and self convicting knowing they did not deserve the sentence passed down.

WELL....Jesus did just this thing and we as Christians seem to forget just how high a price he really paid because he loved us enough to finish the LAW...to do for us what the LAW could not do because no one else and no animal could do it. It had to be him. He loved us and his heavenly Father so much that he took on the form of an earthly body to come and find out just how it really is for us creatures here on this earth. He came to take on the wrath of God's judgement upon us into himself. He carried the transgressions, iniquities and SIN upon his body and caused his Father to step back because of this ALL because he wanted us not to be lost. He wants us to win ! He wants what is best for us so he did what the LAW could not ! He paid the last blood sacrifice for SINS to our heavenly father. He presented his body as a living sacrifice holy before God our Heavenly Father so that we would not be held to rememberance of our sins anymore. His blood was pure and innocent. He laid his life willingly at the altar to be given as a sacrifice of SIN so God would allow us LIFE !

Only he is able to present us spotless before the CREATOR. He is our adovacte , he is our High-Priest..he ENTERED the Holiest of Holies and went before the Lord on our behalf. We were not worthy of such a sacrifice BUT JESUS ! Stephen saw him STAND UP at the right hand of God the Father because for him Stephen made the ultimate sacrifice and laid down his life just as Jesus did for the FATHER and the whole world. Stephen laid it down for Christ because he knew. As a pastor said on televison the other day, Why do you think the disciples went thru so much pain and rebuke and beatings and scoure ? BECAUSE THEY KNEW ! THEY KNEW JESUS WAS REAL THEY SAW THE NAILS IN THE HAND AND THE FEET THEY SAW THE PIERCED SIDE AND THEY KNOW THAT HE WAS RESURRECTED FROM THE DEAD..They count i all joy because they KNOW !

When you know that at the bottom of the mud, slime and gunk there is a priceless reward..when you have seen proof of it and know it has been promised to you then you do not care what you have to go thru to get to it . When you LOVE with all of your heart you do not care about the price you have to pay to be with that person again . So why is it we are not loving JESUS ? WHY are we not loving him ? All that he has done for us no MOTHER, FATHER, BROTHER, GRANDMOTHER/FATHER OR FRIEND HAS EVER DONE SO WHY AREN'T WE LOVING HIM ? Hebrews 10:1-18 tells us of the great sacrifice of Jesus for us. When he came into the world he saith, Sacrifice and Offering thou wouldest not, BUT A BODY hast thou prepared for me ! That right there makes me want to SHOUT HALLELUJIAH AND RUN FOR THE VICTORY ! The Lord has fulfilled the Law ..the law could only bring up the rememberance of sins and bring about death....JESUS thru his body took away the penalyt of death and offered eternal life and forgiveness of sins....he went into hell and preached the gospel and set those prisoners free ! We must love him enough to be obedient to his Word. We all fall short here..Jesus learned obedience by the things he suffered. He knew he had to go thru them to fulfill the WILL OF HIS HEAVENLY FATHER ! When Jesus wills things and allows things in our life we must go thru but we must do so in the manner in which he tells us in his WORD ..and how many of us really do it that way all the time ?? Let me be the first to confess with my mouth in spirit and in truth I DON'T ! Sometimes i have to put myself in rememberance of his WORD and straighten my self up ! This mouth i tell you and these thoughts....GOD has to cover them with the blood of Jesus and i have to repent daily ! Come on now ??!! I know i am NOT the only one !

READ THE WORD..PRAY...MEDITATE..REPENT DAILY....TALK TO JESUS ..JUST OPEN YOUR MOUTH AND TALK TO HIM HE IS PRESENT HE HEARS EVERYTHING, SEES EVERYTHING, READS EVERY THOUGHT, HEARS EVERY MURMUR AND SEES INTO EVERY HEART ! SO JUST TELL HIM THE TRUTH BECAUSE LOVE IS TRUTH AND RIGHTEOUSNESS ! After all the Savior has done why are we not loving him ?

MAY THE LORD CONTINUE TO PLACE HIS ANGELS AROUND YOU TO PROTECT YOU AND ALL THAT IS UNDER YOUR HAND UNTIL WE TALK AGAIN..PRAY FOR ME AND I WILL PRAY FOR YOU-FB

PRAISE THE LORD FOR ANOTHER RESURRECTION SUNDAY...WE JUST WENT TO CHURCH AND DID WHAT WE ALWAYS DO STORE THE WORD IN OUR HEARTS AND MINDS AND GIVE HIM THE MUCH DESERVED PRAISE BECAUSE WE BELIEVE THAT HE LIVES AND IS WATCHING DOWN FROM HIS THRONE IN HEAVEN ! AMEN